Neurodivergence is “having a brain that functions in ways that diverge significantly from the dominant societal standards of “normal.”” (quote from Nick Walker’s blog)
That does not mean that to be neurodivergent is uncommon, just that the dominant societal stand of normal is different than what you are.
We know that a minority group can have the loudest voice and biggest influence in many situations….. so it makes sense that it is possible that neurotypical people are in the minority but still dominating the conversations around what is “normal”.
I think many of us hide our neurodivergence and disability if we can, because we are expected to and it’s easier, sometimes safer. Since I have been deliberately not hiding my neurodivergence, and learning to live my life in ways that work better for me, I have been faced numerous times with situations and responses that have been difficult and confronting. If I had just hidden my needs and done what was expected that would not have happened.
It makes me wonder, how many more people like me are out there? It took me 40 years to get to a place where I can begin to say I know who I am, and what I need. How will they get the information that would help them understand themselves and live better lives?
There are times when I choose not to disclose my neurodivergence because I do not have the energy to face the disbelief, stereotyping and/or discrimination that will result.
image: text reads”How many people are out there who know they are neurodivergent but are unwilling to disclose the information in order to get the support that would help them? Are they silent and alone, walking through life neurodivergent and hiding it?” over a background of leaves and branches in a tree canopy.
These thoughts give me more confidence to speak up about my life, my experiences and my needs. If neurodivergence is more common than we know then we, those of us who can, need to be open about it so that others can hear and see that they are not alone. When we build community together we build safety and strength… things sorely needed as we push on to a time when diversity is recognised, valued and encouraged as part of society’s normal.